Being a troublemaker is not something we necessarily associate with highly sensitive people, those gentle souls who are loath to hurt others.
The label, troublemaker, is not something that we usually generate for ourselves either. It is usually conferred by others when they encounter something uncomfortable in themselves courtesy of another person.
Highly Sensitive And A Troublemaker?
Highly sensitive people are usually very conscientious, cautious, perceptive and empathetic.
Highly sensitive people often see what others cannot because they operate from an atypical perceptual reality. When people think differently, many assume that is is an ideological difference that is being expressed. In the case of HSPs, however, what is being expressed is a biological difference.
Highly sensitive people have nervous systems that absorb all the stimulus and energy around them. Their nervous systems are like sponges, which makes them uncomfortable and other people as well. Highly sensitive people notice when someone is uncomfortable, sad or angry no matter how much someone attempts to hide their feelings. They notice when something is not working very well, differences in perception and reality, mistakes of judgment and an other energetic event.
Highly sensitive people necessarily have values that support their sensitive natures including kindness and fairness. They are able to see the pitfalls in a competitive social structure and are unlikely to support the destructive aspects of it.
People who do not understand the highly sensitive nature may feel uncomfortable around HSPs and even think of them as troublemakers.
Characteristics Of Troublemakers
Why would anyone be labeled a troublemaker? Aren’t we all in this together?
The label suggests that there is something to protect against. It suggests that the group is dependent on the existence of certain behaviors, beliefs and ideas to sustain it. It also suggests that we each of us have the job of protecting the group, that protecting the group is one price of membership.
Troublemaker is a social label. Who gets the label?
- people who belong to another social group
- people who look different
- people with different customs and social habits
Those are just superficial reasons for labeling someone a troublemaker or potential problem.
There are deeper ones:
- people who think differently
- people with different values
- someone kind and empathetic in a culture that is not
- someone who notices disconnects
- someone who notices that which is overlooked, devalued and deferred
- someone who notices imbalances and inequities
- someone who notices a need for change
When Awareness Is A Liability
When we are young we take in everything around us. We may not understand it, but we take it in nonetheless. In particular we take in what is supported and what is not. We usually then adopt the supported behaviors and reject unsupported ones. This is how we survive. In fact we have to. When people wonder why prejudice survives this is why: each generation learns the accepted attitudes of their social group and rejects the unaccepted ones including the prejudices towards different kinds of people.
For highly sensitive people, the situation is not so easy. Our perceptual system is different so we cannot help but think and feel differently. We will also notice that our perceptions are often not supported and that will leave us with a quandary about what to do and think. It may increase self-doubt, cause depression and leave us feeling lonely. We will feel our conflict with our social group and not know what to do:
- Do we speak our truth?
- Do we say nothing when we know something is wrong?
- How can we live in our authenticity when we are so at odds with others around us?
When we go along with the group we may compromise our integrity. When we live our truth we may be labeled a troublemaker.
It requires a lot of learning to know when to speak and when not to, how to support healthy change without being alienating, and how to b respectful and also disagree.
These are important challenges for highly sensitive people whose wisdom the world needs and needs to be able to accept. We may be labeled troublemakers sometimes but we are far from it.